If you're too proud to accept help from friends or family, you should probably be forced in to some sort of counseling
yeah i am pretty stubborn and am not going to be guilt tripped into doing something i never had any intention or desire to do just because someone takes it on themselves to do it. have at it man and i do appreciate it, but that was your choice
define help, mowing my yard takes twenty minutes. im not saying i go he-man and do two man jobs by myself, but if i can do it myself why ask for help?
He literally said the dude just does it to help out. For some reason you have an issue with that. It's weird
no my issue is wanting to sit inside and play video games when other people are out doing your yard work. its not aimed at anyone in particular but this happens a lot.
Yes. It says he's tired from work and the guy is doing his yard work. I saw nothing about asking for help or panning jobs off on anyone
The guy is literally harboring two grown adults in his house and you think it makes him less of a man to get some yard work out of it
harboring? they came to take care of his premature baby, id say they have done enough. maybe im the one that read it wrong but when i read "wake up on the weekends and all i want to do is sit my ass on the couch, that mf'er is outside cleaning my grill or powerwashing our patio. it has made me a less worthless human being" it would make me feel like shit and it sounds like it at one point made dome foam feel the same way so he started doing his own house work.
he's not asking him to do the work or forcing him to. he just does it. oh the horror! not my precious lawn while i relax after work or on the weekends!
My pops lives two streets over and is retired. Sometime I come home and shit around the house is fixed. I'm good with that.
They came to help to do all kind of things due to the early baby and hospital stay. Yard work is just one way of helping. It's not just about the baby. It's about helping any way you can in a hard and stressful situation. Hope I can do these things for my kids one day if they ever have to go through the stress of working while dealing with a child in a hospital.
also not once did i say he asked for help. i guess my FIL and i have an understanding, he doesnt touch my stuff unless i ask him to. i dont know maybe im weird and OCD but when it comes to the house and yard i like it done a certain way and if i came home from work and my house was painted id be grateful but a little perturbed at the same time.
Literally right here it says why ask Thanks You need to chill a little man. It's OK if someone else cuts your grass
And anyone who has worked all week that hadn't had multiple desires to literally do nothing on the weekends is a fucking liar
pretty much every weekend my only desires are to sleep, lay on the couch, drink and, if i am feeling particularly lively, go to the pool and i don't even work hard or have a kid
I just don't understand why you think it would make you less of a man to accept help from friends or family. That's like a serious issue
probably because ive always done that kind of stuff myself. i honestly dont know maybe i should see someone about that.
I always buy my own drinks, but I'm not too proud to turn down a free one. I beat myself off a lot too, not going to turn that one down either
We are talking about the merits of an awesome father in law who did a lot of cool shit for our friend user dome foam.
My father in law claims to have buried two shoe boxes full of baseball cards in the area that is now the four lane highway called the Norwood Lateral in Cincinnati. He claims that his mother threatened to throw all of his baseball cards in the garbage unless he got his grades up. Preemptively, he outsmarted his mother by burying them in a wooded area near their home. He never got his grades back up, so he kept them buried. Within a year, the state bulldozed the wooded area and built the highway. He was born in 1941, so there are probably several hundred thousand dollars worth of Mickey Mantle rookie cards buried under that highway if anyone wants to start digging.
If you can't see kslim's point you're being slightly obtuse. Dude's family is already there to help out with the kids, it's not like they're there just to get finances in order. If my father in law was doing some quasi-major projects around my house, it would be bad form to not help out with whatever he's doing, regardless of how tired I was from working.
They're there to help, they're not there to specifically only help with children. Helping includes household duties.
Helping with kids is plenty, especially since they uprooted from their home to do so. Helping with small children is a lot of work.
That's not their specific rask.. Like he didn't move out there to help with a small child all day. They moved out there to help the family. I'm sure the wife helps significantly with the child and he helps around the house. He may also have duties with the child every now and then... I don't get why him helping out would make anyone less of a man and frankly I find the notion stupid as shit
Are we implying that it's OK for someone to help with your kids but not your yard in order to keep your man status?
I pay someone to mow my yard in the 95 degree heat...so I can sit inside in the air conditioning drink beer and play video games.
I've got good money that says chuck Norris doesn't personally maintain all his properties. He's a pussy too
My FIL is a Vietnam vet and obviously went through hell. Extremely generous guy and he really likes me because I put up with his stupid daughter. He spends a lot of time in a sun room watching his old 8mm Vietnam videos and chain smoking. Couple things about him: He used to drink a lot to deal with his nightmares etc, but was told by VA doctor that his liver would fail so he just quit cold turkey. He refuses to file for disability because he feels like he can still work, but he's really just getting too old. He has some health issues from his time in Vietnam from like agent orange or something and doesn't do anything about it. He still runs his own car repair business out of his house. He had a car fall off a jack and land on his arm, crushing it. He sat there alone for hours until someone finally showed up and got the car off his arm. He went to the VA once, and they put it in a soft cast. He never went back to have it checked out and ended up cutting off the cast a few days later because it got a bunch of oil on it and interfered with him being able to work on cars. He pays for everything in cash and doesn't have a cell phone. He's also probably the most patient person I've ever met, which is incredible considering his wife is absolutely batshit crazy and borderline retarded, and loves bringing drama into their lives. I borrowed his truck one time. By the time I got down the road I realized I was driving a fucking arsenal of weapons. He had two shotguns in the back seat, a handgun under the console next to me, a handgun in the side door, a large hunting knife in both doors, and a machete on the floorboard in the back seat. We also had a wild cat show up at our house that was eating the stomachs out of some kittens. My wife calls him up while I'm at work and asks if he can come "take care of" the wild cat. He shows up with a pillow case and a hammer. My wife eventually convinced him to use a shotgun. I guess he didn't want to "waste a bullet". Guy scares the shit out of me but I absolutely love him
That's not all he said he did, however. He was talking about fixing items with his house, pressure washing, etc. I'm not going to put up a fight if you want to help out with some minute tasks with my house, but one you start taking on larger projects, it would be lazy to not help out in some way.
My dad whenever he steps foot in my place has his eye out for anything that needs repairing. And if there's nothing he will find something that's not necessarily broken and improve it. Some people are just wired like that and I'm not going to stop him or feel like less of a man cause that's just what he does. This guy probably has a good amount of spare time with the mil there to watch the kid and also genuinely enjoys doing those things.