You'll also realize that your toddler is the problem not your baby. I remember thinking "how did we think an infant was difficult" after our 2nd was born and she was just laying there as my 3 year old was tearing the house down.
yeah there's a little window there where baby duty is by far the easier job. i remember being so jealous of my wife laying there nursing the 4 month old while i'm chasing the toddler around trying to get yogurt off the walls
My experience was different. My 2.5 year old was perfect with the little one. Super gentle and patient. The little one was a pissed off time bomb for the first year or so.
2 newborns and a 2 year old is not recommended. There’s zero free time. Guess we could distract the toddler with TV, but we try our best to limit that. One of the three is always needing something. Two year old wants to stay up late, and wake up at 7am no matter when she finally goes to bed. Also wants to climb EVERYTHING we’re having fun!
fantastic for early development. Wouldn't do it past kindergarten though. Also, saw your story about your current daycare. Holy fuck that's terrible. Hope you sue them into bankruptcy and like Sub-Zero said, use some of that money to take your kid on the disney trip of a lifetime including the plad vests.
yeah i've found most kids sleep through everything once they are down. and if the baby wakes them up then just get a better sound machine
Need some advice from the fellow dads/husbands My wife has fallen into the habit of asking questions she wants a specific answer to. If I give her my honest opinion and if it doesn't lineup with the answer she is looking for, she gets pissed off. If I give her the asnwer she wants, she gets mad because I just told her what she wants to hear. It has gotten to the point she does this shit on the most inane decisions. This morning's example. Her: Hey CF, the cleaning ladies are coming, what do you want to do with 3yo's trainset that is on the floor? Me: Well, they are going to clean the floors so we can move the train set on top of the table for now and put it back on the floor after they are done or just take it apart real quick. Her now angry: Just give me your opinion. Me: Well he really likes this design, so let's put it on the table so he can keep playing with it when he gets home from school. Her now even more upset: They have to clean the table as well. Me: Ok so I'll just take it apart. Her now fuming: STOP TELLING ME WHAT YOU THINK I WANT YOU TO SAY AND GIVE ME YOUR OPINION. Me: Good talk.
I can't believe how expensive sports equipment is now. especially mad at myself for leaving my nice glove on a bench somewhere after a softball game.
This is my situation - same age difference and everything. Mine are 6 and 4 now. The older one actually did OK when the younger one was little. Once he got mobile and began doing things on his own, that's when the possessiveness started. It was just in the last handful of months where they could play together for more than 10 minutes or so without a fight breaking out. The development of #2 was light years faster than #1 I think by virtue of just trying to emulate big bro, so that helps. It also helps that the younger one is a god damn giant so they are roughly equal size and he can hold his own when they get rough. Sharing/hand me down clothes, toys, books, etc. kicks all kinds of ass, so that's a plus. Obviously you don't want everything to be a hand me down, but when it comes to clothes and such at this age, it saves so much $$.
We have a 2 year old and a 2 month old and 3 Hatches. One for the toddler's room, one for the nursery, and one for our bedroom. Highly recommend, brown noise is awesome.
toddler slept through the night since he was 11 months old, also hatch sound machines drown it all out.
we are considering but haven’t made the move yet. the ones near here are stupid expensive, but would prob be a great environment for both of our kids. I’m anticipating that after we tour this hoity toity one tomorrow we are going to end up enrolling them there.
My wife often frames things similarly, “what do you want to do for <x>”. We’ve had enough discussions at this point at how it isn’t a real question so I turn around and ask what she wants to do.
Central Jersey, haven’t seen any brew pub / playgrounds around here which is kinda surprising given some of the Main Street type neighborhoods around here with tons of restaurants.
Jersey is a weird stay, I wouldn't be shocked if they were laws about alcohol and proximity to play areas?
Didn’t realize that was a thing but that makes sense. Could always partner with a food truck and have it outside?
3 weeks in on #2 with #1 having her second birthday at the end of the month (both girls) #1. before the baby comes we got the oldest a baby to play with including a play bottle and crib and blankets, things that you'll use with baby 2. It has helped a bunch for her to take care of her baby vs trying to help with her little sister too much when mom is doing her thing. We'll do tummy time with the youngest and she'll grab her baby and lay out her blanket and put hers down or grab her bottle when I am feeding the youngest if she looks like she might be feeling left out. Been a good way to include her. doesn't matter if you have boys, would still recommend this, get them a spider man plush or something if you'd prefer #2. Start taking over bed time routine with the oldest as soon as possible, if you're not already, get the oldest used to seeing you only at bed #3. Keep taking the oldest to daycare/sitter/where ever you go now during the day after the #2 comes #4. When oldest meets the new baby for the first time and honestly even when they come home after being separated for a while try not to be holding the new baby, have them in a swing or bassinet or wherever. Our oldest hasn't acted out nearly as much when thats the case, but it will still happen as others have said #5. we followed the recommendation to have the new baby bring the older sibling a toy when they first meet, our oldest seemed to be too young for that to have made much of an impact but it was nice to have a low mess toy to occupy her at the hospital. fwiw
I'm not sure if this an OCD or ASD kind of thing (daughter has been diagnosed with ADHD/Auditory Processing Disorder) but for a long time my daughter has had this problem where she can't stand to have even a couple of noticeable drops of water on her clothes. It felt like it was getting better over the past couple of years but very recently it's become a trigger for her again. She's almost seven so I'm expecting her to have the cognitive ability to be able to work through the problem mentally at this point, as opposed to when she was 3 or 4. The past month she's had several screaming meltdown swhen she's gotten a tiny bit of water on her clothes, like changing into her pajamas after bath (she's not 100% completely dry everywhere) or spilling a tiny bit of her drinking water on her. If she spills enough water on her that she feels wet I can understand how that's unpleasant, but just now after her bath she got a couple of drops of water on her pajama shirt. She didn't notice this until we were in the bathroom with a bright light on and she spotted it then demanded she be able to change clothes. The biggest problem is I don't think she needs to go through 3 pairs of clothes every day and cause us to rack up a big electric bill from doing laundry constantly. She hates if she gets her clothes dirty from food or playing outside as well so my guess is that it's a wanting everything to look pristine. Because of the Auditory Processing Disorder (this basically means she has a hard time conceptually understanding when we talk to her unless we repeat ourselves several times) it's hard to get her to understand that her clothes will dry eventually if it's just a couple of drops. It's been a particular challenge lately because I'm expecting her to have better willpower and patience by this point, which is my own problem I need to deal with.
This is awful. Sorry you are going through this. I think your initial reaction is correct. By7, This type of thing shouldn’t be happening. IMO this is something that needs to be brought up with her specialist. OCD tendencies that young can’t be very common. I’m really not trying to be doom and gloom guy and hope this is just a phase, but this seems very uncommon.
Are you doing occupational therapy with her? Our son has ADHD with some sensory issues and OT did wonders for him.
Yeah we've been doing OT for several years, mostly for fine and gross motor skills. We just started her back again after being on a wait list since we moved. My wife is already planning to bring it up next session.
Best feeling in the world as a dad… Spoiler Running head shot that knocks your 7yo off his feet during nerf gun battles. Kid went down like I was shooting from the UT tower. Bad analogy but whatever.
Our first birthday party in the books. Chaos reigned supreme but was a success. Daddy needs some booze
Babysitter en route. Used points to get a hotel for a few hours because I can’t keep my kid in his room at night. I’m about to hook up with my wife? What has my life come to lol
Found out there’s a mass mom group text in my circle about guy behavior when coming home drunk from a night out when the babysitter is hot. Apparently, we all bee line the fuck out to any chore we can find instead of paying or acknowledging the hot sitter
Lil man and his gf wanted to do church tonight so we grabbed some dinner out after. In the way home my wife said something about brown nosing and the kids had never heard the term. Any ways
lol I never finished this post. Any ways she said later while we were playing a board game she tried to tell him to quit brown nosing but screwed up and said quit sticking your nose in my brown. It was hilarious.
I’m a completely well adjusted informative and transactional human when they show up. When I’m drunk I get scared I can’t say a word to them without coming off like a dirty old creep, so I hide. And I don’t want to piss off my wife on accident
yes i'm usually walking on eggshells trying not to fuck the vibe up because hopefully i'm about to get laid
“You’re so good with my son based on what I saw on the monitor. Digging those 90s jeans. Need a drink? You can hang with us if you don’t have any plans.” Totally normal nice person thoughts